Late Christmas Recap

 

Christmas 2012 recap

 

This Christmas was quite different from previous years. This was the first year we did not spend Christmas in Houston.

My brother (his family), my sister and grandparents all came to Dallas this year to celebrate Christmas.

We had a several days of packed fun! A few days before everyone arrived my mom and I took the kids to North park for some last minute shopping and to let Nathan run around.

 

Here he is watching the fountain with his Mickey!

 

 

He put money into one of the salvation army collection bins and they gave him a candy cane as a thank you. He then tried to put the candy cane into the collection bin...it was pretty funny. Once we explained he could keep it, he acted like we had given him the best gift ever! He was holding it so carefully with t2 hands and showing it to everybody! He took one lick of it but he wanted ot carry it not eat it. Oh the little things in life!

 

We came out of Macy's and all of a sudden he started squealing and took of running. HE saw Mickey on the window of the Disney store! Needless to say he LOVES mickey!

 

 

 

 Amber was thrilled with the whole shopping experience

 

The next day my sister came into town from NY and we had a fun day going to hte zoo and then playing at our house.

Nathan and Amber loved having their Auntie Cheryl there to play with them (or hold them, in Amber's case)

 

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At the zoo.

When we got home from the zoo Nathan was in the best, happiest mood I had seen in a long time! He was chasing the dogs around the yard and just laughing. He was jumping and falling in the leaves. 

 

My sister tended to Amber's need of always wanting to be held!!

Amber was quite content! 

 

 I missed taking some pictures of a few days before we celebrated Christmas. on Saturday morning we met my brother and his daughter at the Children's museum. Then we went back to my mom's house and baked our traditional kolachi's from scratch. Thank goodness my sister was there to entrain the kids because it took my mom and i 5 hours to get them all made. During that time my grandparents arrived in town. That evening my brother and his family had somewhere to be and Dan had a friends party to attend so my sister, mom, grandparents, the kids and i spent the evening together. We had fun playing with kids and going to get Mexican food since my sister does not get good Mexican food in NY!

On Sunday we met at Blue Mesa for brunch. They have a great buffet! WE then headed to my mom's house to start opening gifts once my brother's wife and Maeva arrived.

Here are some pictures of gift opening.

 

 

 

 

The cousins had so much fun playing together! I sure wish she lived closer so they could grow up playing together.

 G-Gram had the magic touch to quiet Amber!

Nathan thought it was fun to sit on all the presents!
As usual we were spoiled rotten with all the gifts we received. Our family loves to give gifts!

The next day (actual day of Christmas Eve) we had Christmas dinner at our house. Luckily my mom kept Nathan at her house so we were able to focus on cooking. This was the first big meal we have ever hosted and it sure made us more appreciative of all the big meals our families have provided for us in the past! It is a lot of work to get everything timed just right!
After dinner my brother and his family left an the rest of us played games! While we were playing the doorbell rang and there was big group of carolers singing! They gave us a big plate of cookies after they sang several Christmas songs (our neighbor was a part of the group so we weren't taking cookies from strangers!) IT was so fun! We ate the cookies while we played games...it was very Christmasy feeling!

The next day was actually Christmas day! We spent the morning at home with just the 4 of us. We made our traditional Belgian waffles, bacon and eggs! Nathan loved the waffles  and syrup

 

Then we opened our presents from each other. Nathan really enjoyed the whole idea of opening presents this year!

 

 

 

Amber was nice enough to not cry while we were enjoying our morning!

 

 

 

Nathan is always playing with Dan's measuring tape so he could Nathan his own!

 

 

 Dan is the hardest person to buy gifts for, so this year he bought his own gift (I did not like this idea, I feel it defeats the purpose of giving at Christmas and being surprised, but I lost that argument htis year!) Anyways, he got a pair of ASOLO hiking boots.

Here is his "surprised" face!

 

 Dan surprised me with a Snoopy picture he drew!

Amber was really enthralled!

 

 

After we had enjoyed our morning we went over to Dan's mom's house.

Sadly, his sister's kids were sick with the flu and had high fever's so they had to stay home. Talk about a sad Christmas for a 7and 9 year old.

We ate dinner and opened gifts from his family. We sure did miss Audrey and Logan.

 

 

The day after Christmas we spent the morning playing in the snow. 

 

The boys were ready for some hot chocolate (or warm milk in Nathan's case) after playing in the cold. 

 

 

 WE had a relaxing day playing with new Christmas toys!

 

 

 

Overall, we had  a fun Christmas. I was so thankful Dan had several days off for Christmas, which has not happened before! It was enjoyable ot spend so much time together as a family during Christmas!

                              A Rough 3 Months


      I know it has been a while since I posted. I will make this one short as I need to catch up on Thanksgiving and Christmas posts.
  Amber is 3 months old now. It has gone by much slower than with Nathan. She has horrible colic and has had it since about week 3 of life. I'm not going to lie, it has been awful. She cries all the time and not just a normal cry but a "your amputating both my legs with no anesthesia" type of cry. She also still gets up every 3-4 hours to eat each night. For the first 9 weeks the crying was anytime of day however it seemed worse at night. She was either awake and crying or asleep. She would calm down when you held her but that would only last so long. We tried her on Reglan (in case it was reflux), colic calm, gripe water, simthicone drops, Bio gaia (a probiotic), switched formula's, tried a friends breast milk and none of it seemed ot help. She has spent alot of time in the baby sling because that seems ot work the best for her colic. We figure she spent less than an hour a day (during the first 2 months) that she was not crying or sleeping. Yea.....rough.
         2 weeks ago I thought we had turned a corner with her constant crying. She started interacting and smiling more. She would have bouts of crying in the evening but it was much more manageable. However the past 3 days she has relapsed back to crying alot however she is more interactive and gives me about 3 blocks a day of about 15 minutes each where she is happy and "playing".
I know you are not supposed to compare your children but she is a very fussy and miserable baby compared to Nathan. We keep thinking each day has to be the day she is going to be better.

I forgot a 2 month post so here is a catch up.
2 Months
She weighed 10pounds 8oz at her 2 month appt. 40th percentile
Her height was in the 70th percentile
Head Circ was 35th percentile
she had bad infant acne form weeks 7-11, but that has faded.

3 Months
11 pounds on home scale

She does not really have a schedule. I hate this because I was so good about getting Nathan on a schedule right from the beginning. She still gets up every 3-4 hours at night to feed. We had 2 nights were she slept 5 hours but she has not done it in awhile. I never had to work to get Nathan to sleep through the night, he just did it on his own, so I am not sure what I should do. I have tried the crying it out method (during the day) and it does not work. She cried for 45minutes straight before I gave in and picked her up. I have tried the patting method, when I hear her cry at night I go in, pat her until she falls back asleep or starts screaming at which point I pick her up and rock her. The problem with the patting method is that she falls back asleep just long enough for me to get back downstairs and into bed before she starts crying again. I read somewhere you are supposed ot keep repeating the cycle of patting until you stretch out their feedings, however I am usually to tired to do it past 2 rounds each night.
  I put her to bed, in her crib,  at 9pm each night after her bath and bottle. She usually wakes up an hour later but I can pat her back asleep. Then she wakes up crying around 1am to eat. Sometimes I pat her other times I just feed her. She then wakes up around 3:30 or 4am at which point I put her in her swing. She sleeps great in her swing, but I am trying to get her to sleep in her crib, especially since I go back to work soon. She then gets up at 5 or so to eat then falls back asleep in her swing. She will sleep till 8am but Nathan is up at 7ish. the lack of consistent sleep is killing me. I am able to function well most days but I am tired ALL THE TIME. I get very grouchy without got quality sleep.
Dan and I trade off taking care of her on the nights her doesn't work.
She naps on and off during the day. I kinda have them both on the same nap schedule. Nathan naps form 1-4 and she usually will nap during that time too! That is my saving grace!
I keep her awake from 6p-9p in hopes to tire her out. I guess I need a new strategy. Any ideas are welcome!!

As angry or upset as we get when she just screams and screams it is hard to be mad at her when she smiles like this!!



No guilt this time

My soap box on Breastfeeding

(With random pictures to keep you entertained)

When I was pregnant the first time I just assumed breastfeeding would be this natural and easy thing. I snickered when I had people ask me if I had read any breastfeeding books or gone to any breast feeding classes, I mean what was there to know, you lift up your shirt and the baby just starts to eat. I was smidge naive and under informed about how difficult breastfeeding can be. I realize there are some women that experience that natural ease, but not most.

With Nathan, i never had a milk supply. He was very sleepy after delivery and did not latch on to me in the hospital. In fact he did not eat until we gave him formula as we were leaving the hospital. I followed all of their instructions and hand expressed what little milk I had and gave it to him in a syringe. I had 2 lactation consultants come see me in the hospital to help me try to get him to latch on but he was too sleepy. Once I was home with him I was only able to get him to latch on wit ha nipple shield. I ate, drank, took fenugreek ,which is an herb that is supposed ot help with your milk supply) and pumped religiously after feeding him. After we were home a few days i went to see another lactation specialist and they had me weigh him before he nursed and then after he nursed. He had lost a lot of weight since delivery. They figured he was only getting half an ounce of breast milk from me after a 30 minute session of nursing. Poor thing, no wonder he lost so much weight. The Specialist told me we needed to start supplementing with formula to help him gain some weight. he had no good reason as to why I was not producing much breast milk.

Over the next month I had a rigorous and exhausting feeding schedule which consisted of nursing for 20-30 minutes, then giving him a bottle and then pumping for 20 minutes to try to help with my milk supply. It never worked the most milk I ever made was 1 ounce every 3 hours...not enough to sustain a growing infant.

At my post-partum check up my Dr. had no good reason for my low supply either. She said some women just don't make milk. She prescribed a medication called Reglan which is supposed to help with your supply, but it didn't. I gave up breastfeeding after a month. It was just to exhausting and I was not getting anywhere on my supply.

I lost a lot of tears because of my inability to nurse my baby boy. I felt like a failure as a mother.

 

On to baby number 2.

My Dr. told me I would probably have the same issue with low milk supply as I did with my first baby. One of the big clues to this was that my breast never changed size during pregnancy. Apparently that is a sign you might have trouble making milk.

However, due to the circumstances with Amber's birth and her immediate trip to the NICU I started pumping within 3 hours of her birth.

I really thought since I got a head start on the pumping I might be successful this time around.

I pumped every 3 hours around the clock while she was in the NICU and I nursed her when I was allowed. She latched on like a champ. It seemed easy.

However, after 8 days my supply was still only about 1 ounce every 3 hours. Per all the literature I should have been making 15 ounces or more a day instead of 8 ounces.

I began to try everything again. I drank Mother' milk tea several times aday, took fenugreek, pumped, ate, drank 100 ounces of water a day (yea, that is alot!)and ordered some special More Milk plus drops.

Sadly, it did not help. I still had not shed a tear over it, I just wanted to try everything ot give it the 'ole college try!!

The lactation consultant in the NICU said there was one more thing to try. IT is a medication called Domperidone. Apparently it is said to work wonders in increasing your milk supply, especially if nothing else seems to work.

The catch is that it is not approved by the FDA and therefore must be purchased in Canada.

She did inform me of 1 compounding pharmacy in the whole DFW metroplex that supplies it with a Dr's prescription. I started to get my hopes up! This could be the answer!

I called my OB for the prescription but because the FDA does not approve it she would not write for it. Dashed went my hopes.

After we were discharged from the NICU I took Amber to her pediatrician for a follow-up.

Her pediatrician is a huge breastfeeding advocate and had taken Domperidone herself with her child. She wrote me the prescription! I was excited. I was finally going to be like a normal woman and be able to breastfeed my baby exclusively without supplementing or pumping.

I was surprised that the compounding pharmacy actually had the medication in stock. The directions said i should see effects within 4-5 days.

Sadly, 5 days then 3 weeks past and I only saw a minimal increase, not even a half ounce change.

I was very disappointed but I still did not cry over it this time! I knew my baby would be fine if I had to feed her formula and I knew i had done everything I could.

I had a friend who had gone through the same issue as me and she told me something that gave me such a different prospective. She had a neighbor who was unable to conceive and my friend had been telling her neighbor how awful it was that she couldn't breastfeed and sharing her woes about having to supplement with formula. The neighbor said ' I would love to have a baby that I could feed formula too".

Such a good prospective for me. Yes, i would have loved to been able to breastfeed both my babies, but the fact is I have 2 healthy beautiful babies of my own! God truly has blessed me and I so I can have peace about my decision to quit breastfeeding.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



Part 2 - Amber's story

 

Part 2

 

Amber was in the NICU for a week. I was discharged on the 5th day (my OB let me have an extra day in the hospital to be closer to Amber) and that is when it started getting "fun". We live about 30 minutes away from the hospital and I was not allowed to drive for 2 weeks (well, I was planning on giving it 10 days before I started driving...that is about all I could take of being carted around and losing my independence!). However, I did not want to leave Amber for long periods of time.

I came home on the night I was d/c'd from the hospital and got some clean clothes and spent some time with Nathan. I had only seen him once in the past 5 days and I really missed him. He was not allowed in the NICU and he got really antsy being in my hospital room, so it was better for him to be out having fun and being spoiled by a family member. It just took a logistical planning to get everybody where they needed to go.

The next few days I spent up at he NICU. I was able to get a ride to the hospital early in the morning, Dan would spend the day with Nathan then drop him off at a grandparents house and then he would come up to the NICU with me. We were able to get a parent room in the NICU, so we could spend the night at the hospital, which was wonderful. It was basically an on-call sleep room with a shared bathroom, but it was surprisingly nice. This way we were able to walk down to her "pod" and feed her in the middle of the night. She seemed better each day however she still had tachypnea (fast breathing) which also seemed ot be improving each day.

 

 Each day the CXR looked about the same, but it meant there was no reaccumulation, however the Dr. wanted ot see some of the residual fluid disappear before he was comfortable discharging us. He also wanted to see her respiratory rate decrease before we went home. Lastly, he wanted her to be on full feeds (basically, she needed to take 2.5 ounces of food every 3 hours) to ensure that the fluid would not re accumulate. Since the Chyle is formed form the fat in a baby's diet, it should have reaccumulated if she was eating as much as they were force feeding her! We wanted what was best for her, but we were ready to go home and with our backgrounds could easily keep a close eye on her respiratory status at home.

After a week in the NICU we finally got transferred to the Special Care Nursery. This was one step closer to going home. The Special Care Nursery was really nice. Each baby had there own private e room with bed for the parent, a recliner, refrigerator and bathroom. It was a mini hotel room. She continued to be monitored while in SCN but I had more responsibility as far as taking care of her, which i was thankful.

 

 I was really having a tough time getting her to eat as much as they wanted her to take. I unfortunately, for some reason, don't make more than 1 ounce of breast milk every 3 hours (that is combined from both breasts). I had the same issue with Nathan and had the same issue this time. It didn't matter that i nursed her for 20 minutes on each side, then pumped, ate well, drank 100 plus ounces of water a day, took fenugreek, drank Mother's milk tea 4 times a day, applied warm packs ot my chest or took Reglan (supposed to help mothers with low milk supply). Therefore, we were having to supplement her with formula and she would just get so tired she would only eat about 1.5 ounces.

This was really hard for me, because I knew if we could get her to eat enough they would probably let us go home, however you can't force feed a baby if they are a sleeping limp rag doll in your arms!

Amber had pulled her NG tube (feeding tube) out a day earlier and they were trying to avoid putting it back in.

Luckily, after a few days in the SCN she was eating to enough and the chest xray had been unchanged for days, they told us we could go home!!!!

 

It was funny to us, but it was a Friday around 1pm when the Dr. told us we could go home. However, we had just sent Nathan to my mom's house so he could take a nap. We asked the nurse if we could stay until he woke up and my mom brought him over to the hospital. Here we had been begging ot leave and then we had to ask them if we could stay until evening time. Funny in retrospect!

 

 Here is our 1st family photo as 4!

Nathan was totally unimpressed with Amber. He payed no attention to here what so ever! However, it did upset him when she started crying on the way home.

 



This has been Amber and my spot everyday during Nathan's nap time. Dan calls from 1pm-3pm NAptime for the whole house! Dan has never been able to sleep during the day so he is able to get alot accomplished while the rest of us are sleeping!

 After we had been home a few days, Nathan starting paying more attention to the baby. He loves to give high-5's and Amber had her hand up in the air, so he thought she wanted a high-5! He was so cute going over and touching her hand.

Then he had to clap after he gave her a high-5! He was very proud of himself!

 

 

So far, we have been adjusting pretty well to our new family compilation. It is much tougher having 2 than when we just had Nathan as a baby. Nathan is a great sleeper at night and wakes up happy, early and ready to play. He sdoes not understand that we are exhausted because Amber has her days and nights mixed up. I have been learning to function in a constant state of exhaustion. We also are trying to figure out a feeding schedule that works best for us. I am still nursing her then supplementing with formula and then at night I pump and feed her a bottle. It is still much more time consuming than just straight nursing, but I will never make enough milk to just nurse her and i am learning to be thankful I get to nurse her at all an have that special bonding time.

 

Nathan has definitely noticed something is different since we have had Amber home. He has been more needy of us and has more meltdowns than he used to. Luckily, Dan has 1 month off from work and has been home to help me tremendously with Nathan. Basically he is caring for Nathan and I am caring for Amber. IT is a man-on-man defense! I am still not sure how I am going to handle it by myself when he goes back to work. At least he only works 3 days a week, however they are 14 hour days.

 

We are truly thankful and blessed to have had as many people praying for us that did. Prayer is so powerful and we serve such mighty and loving GOD. He blessed us greatly with the wonderful outcome for Amber. We were so scared we were going to be in a very different circumstance right now when we first heard of her issue, but with all of the prayer and God's mercy we are home and only able to complain about being tired and I will take that!

Amber's Birth Story
(lots of reading but there are pictures towards the bottom!!)

 

September 27th, 2012 will be a day forever ingrained in my memory.

It started as just a normal day. Dan had to go into work so Nathan and I had the day to ourselves. I had a sono scheduled at 10:30am that my OB had ordered the previous week because I was measuring 3 weeks ahead of schedule. It was just a sono to see how big the baby was going to be. After the sono I had my normal 37week OB appt at 11:30. I knew this would be a long morning for Nathan so i packed him lots of snacks, toys and books (oh, how the boy loves books!!)

When I scheduled the sono appt the previous week the sono tech strongly suggested that I not bring Nathan or that I have someone with me to watch him. Therefore, the plan was for Dan to meet us at the hospital for the sono then he would go back to work.

Before I left the house I packed an overnight bag out of the blue, i figured since I was 37week I should start carrying an overnight bag with me.
 

We arrived for my sono at the same time as Dan. He informed me work was crazy busy. We went into the sono and Nathan was perfect, he just sat in his daddy's lap the whole time. We were enjoying watching our baby on the screen when the tech said she noted some fluid around the lungs. Well, everything went really fast from there on out. We finished up the sono and she told me to go over to my OB office ( down the hall) and she was going to send a copy of the sono to her personally and promptly. Well, since Dan and i are both in health care we know things do not usually happen quickly unless it is important or urgent. However at this point we still thought there would be nothing to do except watch the fluid. Therefore, Dan went back to work since it was so nuts over there.

I saw my OB and she had already scheduled an appointment for me to see a Maternal Fetal Medicine Dr. at 1pm that day. I asked her if I could reschedule for the next day since 1pm is Nathan nap time and he was starting ot get a little fussy and she firmly said No.

Nathan and I had 45  minutes until my next sono appt so we went to the cafeteria for lunch. I called Dan to let him know I had the sono at 1pm. He said he would try to  make it back to the hospital I was at in time for the sono.
 

I had a hard time eating lunch b/c of nerves. Nathan must have sensed something was wrong b/c he would not eat lunch either.

We headed up to the sono appt and thank goodness Dan made it in time.

The tech came in first did a few measurements and then the Dr. came in to do his own sono on me.

He looked at the baby for what seemed like forever. We can read sono's enough to know he was studying the lung and brain very closely. That scared us both to death, thinking there was something wrong with the baby's brain as well.

Dr. Reinhardt then stopped and talked to us and this is when the tears started flowing for me. He said there was significant fluid around the baby's lungs. He went on to say that there were 2 possible scenario's for the fluid. The 1st scenario was the worst scenario.......Hydrops. Hydrops is a disease that is diagnosed by fluid accumulation in 2 or more organs. Pleural effusions are usually present. There is a link below if you are interested in a further explanation.

 

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0004561/
 Hydrops is almost always fatal and I have seen several of these babies at owork and none of them survived.

The 2nd scenario is that it was a chylothorax. Chylothorax is build up of Chyle that is drained from the lymphatic system and into the pleural (between the lung adn chest wall) space. This scared us to because it is almost always associated with other abnormalities. The treatment for chylothorax is long and tenuous. THe babies have to be on a special fat free formula and can not have breast milk. The fat from their diet is processed through the lymphatic system which in this case is not working properly and then drained into the pleural space.

The tears started flowing freely as he was explaining the 2 scenarios. He did reiterate that he did not see any other organs that were affected and nothing drew his attention to any other abnormality.
He then went on tot tell us that if the fluid was from developing hydrops we did not  need to take the chance and wait any longer to deliver the baby. He said even waiting a few days could be risky.
He was very nice and explained everything to us but we were still in shock. He then left the room to go talk to my OB, Dr. Speight. He came back a few minutes later and said she agreed the baby needed to be delivered today. They both wanted the baby delivered soon mainly because it was still day time and there were more neonatologists and adequate staff to be present in the delivery room. No one was sure how sick the baby would be at delivery so they wanted as many resources available as possible.

Thank goodness my brain was on overload and I was not processing everything very well, because with the jobs Dan and I have we know way too much about every bad possible scenario. I think the speed of how fast everything was happening saved me from a nervous breakdown!!

We were then sent back to Dr. Speight to talk to her about delivery options. We sat in her office and she said that my cervix was very unfavorable for a vaginal delivery and even if she did induce me I might end up needing c-section anyways.She also was not sure if the baby would tolerate labor, since we were unsure of the severity of the fluid around lungs. Her biggest concern was that she wanted the baby born when there was plenty of NICU dr's and staff available and that was guaranteed with a urgent c-section. Dan and I decided that we wanted what was best for the baby so we opted for the c-section. She then sent me downstairs to be admitted to labor and delivery.
I called my mom to come and pick of Nathan. Poor thing, he had been with me all day and really had done good. He even took a nap in Dan's arms during the 2nd sono.

 



 

Here we are in labor and delivery. I said bye ot Nathan for the next few days. Not sure how I was smiling.

Everything happened so quick. I had last eaten at 1pm so thought they would make us wait 6 hours before anesthesia would do my epidural and the surgery, but they said since it was urgent it did not matter how long it had been. This scared me to, since in medicine, you only start jumping through hoops (like skipping "rules") if it is serious. By 4pm they had my epidural in and were starting to take me to the OR.



 



 

Before I knew it they were rolling me into the OR and getting ready. I started to feel really gross and sick at this point. They had me laying flat and it was so hard to breath and I was so nauseated from the drugs. I just wanted to sit up so badly. They finally gave me so zofran and that helped my nausea.At this point the NICU neonatologist started talking to me telling me he was going to intubate the baby at birth and I started tearing up agian. I asked if she even was allowed a chance to breath on her own before he intubated her and he said yes.

A side note, we decided not to find out the gender of our baby so that is what I was trying to focus on as I was lying on the table was finding out if we were having a girl or boy!!!

The began the surgery and apparently I had a significant amount of polyhydraminos (extra amniotic fluid). My OB said it looked like a tidal wave coming out! She thinks this is what caused the baby's pleural effusions.

Dan watched the whole surgery and was telling me when they were getting close to pulling the baby out. I was really starting to hurt at this point. I think I had some hot spots in my epidural.

Finally they pulled baby out and Dan told me it was a girl!!

She started crying immediately and my OB passed her to the NICU team.

 

At this point I really started to feel some pain as they started to "put me back together". I felt like someone was squeezing my bladder as hard as the could and jamming down into my private area. After a few minutes of this and me squirming in pain all over the table, my Awesome OB stopped the surgery until anesthesia gave me more drugs. Ahhh...much better.

A few minutes late the NICU team was taking my baby girl up to the NICU. Thankfully she was not intubated but she was on CPAP. I saw her as they rolled her out the door for a whole 3 seconds. Dan stayed with me while they took her upstairs.



 

Dr. Speight and I after the C-section. She is awesome and Dan and I really respect her. She also is a runner and pretty laid back, so we have several things in common!

 

After surgery I was taken back to my observation room in Labor and delivery and actually ended up spending the night in there because they did not have enough nurses on post partum.

 

At this point Dan went upstairs to the NICU to check on Amber. He reported back that they had drained 90cc's (3 ounces) of fluid out of her chest. He said she was still on CPAP but they had started to wean it down.

 

The NICU Dr. came in an hour later and told us that right now she was doing OK but he expected that the fluid would quickly re accumulate and he would most likely need ot put in chest tubes to drain the fluid and he talked to us about putting in UAC/UVC lines (central IV's that go in her umbilical cord). Again, I felt so disconnected from her that I was not that upset.

 

A little while later they wheeled me up to the NICU so I could see her. 



 

Here is the first time I got to see my baby girl. I felt disconnected from her when I saw her. She did not seem like my baby, I felt like she was just another NICU kid. Therefore, I really did not get emotional over seeing her in the NICU. It took me several days to start feeling a connection with her.

 

Dan and I decided he should go home for the night and get some rest. Plus we needed stuff from home since we were a tad unprepared for all of this!

Early the next morning they moved me to post partum. I was exhausted, I literally had not slept more than 20 minutes at a time the previous night. IT was too quiet in the room (I have to have white noise in order to sleep) and i kept waking up to pump.

My epidural was being changed to a "walking epidural" that morning and I was glad to be able to get out of bed. We went to the NICU and discovered she had been weaned off of the CPAP and was on room air!! What a miracle. The chest x-ray that morning did not show any reaccumulation of fluid, however there was still some residual fluid left.

Unfortunately because of the rules I was not able to hold her until the next day.

 



I was able to do kangaroo care with her on the 2nd day and it was wonderful. I finally started to feel a connection with her.

She was in the NICU for the next week. The Dr's were afraid her fluid would re accumulate and she would get sick in a hurry, so they wanted to keep a close eye on her.

 



 

 

 



 

on the 3rd day they let me start nursing her. I Will do a separate blog on my breast feeding issues. 

Doing mommy duty by changing her diaper!

 

 



 

I will end here for now so you do not get bogged down with all the reading. I will post part 2 on her NICU stay and coming home soon!!